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Then for 2011 i thought this would be the year life would turn around for us.. Little did i know he would pull another trick and ask my neice to do dirty things with him.. I didnt know he had the problem with pills till we had been together for 2 years. So later also in workig hours he gets a text from his brother, I open it and its more pornographic videos. What should I do? Your gut is telling you something is wrong, and unfortunately and Im sad to say that indeed something is wrong. When i touched his phone he got mad and push me knowing that i am pregnant that time. He was the perfect husband and dad, caring, helped around the house, gave me surprises every know and then, that is why I never suspected it, and now I am totally confused and do not know if i should give him an opportunity thinking he will never do it again. Know what you are going to do if he admits the fact of cheating. As well as working with a counselor, you should sit down and discuss any boundaries you would like to set in your marriage. I just try my best and I wont regret after everything is come to end. Also, my husbands attitude towards me has changed a lot, he always pick up quarrels with me, he is no longer intimate with me as we used to be, sometimes, I cant help but think that he is no longer in love with me. Part 3: Denying Your Reality. Ummm okay. im not miseryabl at all im very happy all the time but just this moment i cant anymore i want to die but my boys and my parents and brother and my sster and my neices and my brothers and my boys more i dont want him to make my kids said anymore cause he yells alot he is wonder ful withthere educaton very strick but like a simple like a glass og water spills it not good my kids when they do somthing they are scaried like mom they tell me im fine it nothing it fixable or whatever we can clean it up but they are freighten wha i would do but whenthey tell me im okay about it aww poor babaies well sorry for typos but im sure u cant makeitout and it funny all the crap i have expericened i say to myself to write a book he dont put his hands on me at all its his brain i reAlly think he had the bypolor or whatever it could be but he smart. He makes up stories, I already know he is lying but he continues doing it thinking I wont find out. Whats this really? He seemed really nervous about it. I ask myself if I leave him, will I find a better one? Talking about his sex life, his past relationships and this is all with strangers. I know he cheated, I just cant prove it. It was all his fault. I dont know whether u r going to tell this (Man) wife, but prepared. I wanted to believe, because i LOVE this man. i dont want to leave him in one way cause both my kids have different dads, and i always wanted to make sure that i was with the father of my kids. His kids love me, i do everything for all of them. He never shows affection to me in public. I cant keep inflicting pain upon myself..this is the only thing I know to do right now, and I dont even know if thats right. he use to want to have sex 4 to 5 times a week and now if we do it once a week he doesnt mind. And is always accusing me of messing around. My life has become 1 big nightmare! If monogomy were natural, then why would so so many people cheat? My own family turned their back on me even my own mother. Than I forgot about it. Please look it up. Having sex blindly with anyone who will agree is extremely dangerous, for you too! my sister its time to wake -up and seek for more advise or is what you want? He crosses the line between friends and sharing too much personal information. It doesnt mean were stupidit just means that were human. I checked his phone and under the nameJelly was a ton of disturbing messages and pictures! This last chance, Im not sure whether it is work or not. I was telling him something is going on and even though I dont kknow what it is, I dont like the feeling I get. I pray for strength to move forward in your life, to decide what you need to do with your future! I had noticed earlier that he kept texting and checking his phone. Needless to say, I felt pretty threatened when we first got together. This will help you work through any emotional baggage you might have otherwise brought into a future relationship and help you trust men again in the future. I just need as many opinions I can get on whats going on.kind of makes me think its still going on because of how she said she was done and then changed her mind after he explained what happened and he couldnt help it. His addiction and i dont know how to help him. So you can see where Im thrown off. What 2 do? I thoughT i did everything slow like your supposed to in the beginning. Are you waiting for this piece of garbage to do the right about face and love you? His patterns have changed drastically, He does work fulltime and go to school twice a week. The key to solving is understanding men on a much deeper emotional level. He always has me do different things or tried new things on me. And Im helping him start college soon and Im totally afraid. when slyly confronted about it he played it off like no big deal. At first, when I caught him, he dismissed the . Not to mention I also saw his exs name in the history also. Then a couple of months ago i once again found a number on his phone and i called it and a women answered and she said it was her sons phone bla bla bla , I also found numbers of escort services and he said that the guys at work told him that if you called them they send you pics of themselves. However, you may wish to attend a therapist yourself to work through your feelings and what went wrong in your marriage. If I were you, Id suggest a session with a counselor. I cant give personal advice because I dont know your situations, marriages, personalities, etc well enough. I never knew the details. He didnt really show any type of compassion at all. Let's pretend that your marriage is just your marriage and that . Its on you if you wan to fix it. Take care! Sad that articles and prog and a all over the web, and feminist shows like the view bombard women with such advice instead of actually attempting to talk things out with their significant other. STARTED TALKING TO ME ON MY JOB. Hello. I regret to inform you that you speak the truth. Please help. Hi I m married in 2009. v have a female child. Dont keep circling around your emotions and experiences alone, because you wont get anywhere. But our fear of the unknown holds us back more than anything. I was doubled over in severe emotional paun, crying out to God! Look at how his surrounding and your surrounding is treating you when you are with him. She would critesise me on things likeIf i see someone doing somthing wrong and I talk to her about it, she replies with something els I did wrong. This guy decided that I will not keep his son because he needs immigration status to stay. I believed him and asked him not to lend out his phone if they were going to use it to text girls. He also has a girl on Twitter that he talked to over 38 times in one day. So I was upset, but continued to date him. Will Your Marriage Succeed? But didnt sleep with her. He has threatened to murder me because he knows hes caught and cannot get by with trying to lie to me. He seemed much more emotionally in tune with her then with me from what I could tell and he also knew her long before he met me. Meanwhile I found out he joined a singles club and I dont know how long he has been part of this club. About a year into living here he starts staying late at work more and more oftenusually getting home at midnight sometimes even 2am. What would you advise your friend to do, if she was in this situation? Im tired of this but I dont want to give up on our relationship. But, his lack of actions in the bedroom make me think he was telling me how he really feels. He said he heard a beeping noise and checked under the seat. And, if he didnt have a sexual relationship, you feel cheated that your best friend, your husband, your groom would even dare spend time with another woman while you slept in your hotel room especially on your honeymoon. This is me, except Im accessible to his lies via email, phone bills, etc. Move on and leave him behind. Its natural for you to want to scream and break things, after all, this is one of the worst breaches of trust that can ever happen to you. ! I was a stay home mom until we agree to get divorce.now I dont know. There arent any of the signs of cheating and nothing has changed between us. When you are cheated on, it is natural, though not warranted, to feel inadequate. She told me that that was the way he was and she was upset that he would do something like that to me. All different types of things. to him he loves me but cannot do anything to please me,he calls me a controller anytime i confront him about anything.now i am almost due for delivery of our first child and all he does is to stay out the whole day and go clubbing at night.he claims he does business even in the night and will probably have no money for us when he stops his night escapades. Its all Ive got left. Hello ladies, whatever you do, think, feel or say, give yourself a moment to realize whats important in the grand scheme of things., and thats for you to stay emotionally strong and healthy. Finally arrives the moment for us to meet again and this time we stay together. ive told him to stop because hes watching my heart break without realizing it. He acted as if he took up for her. I just cannot seem to grasp that. So the kids hear us fight they are well aware of what is going on. I have been with my husband for 20 years we have been married for 16. Hello, just letting you know that I have never done this before. ReadEmotional Affairs Vs. Innocent Friendshipsto learn the difference between the two types of cheating. ? But the things that occured a bit later. And why you would never mention me them. He then went on to tell her that he really enjoyed sex with her and that he missed it and wanted more. We talked about it and he said, that yes she did come over, but they are just frinds. Deeply. Let them make you a hot drink and pour your heart out. Then, after all these years of emotional and verbal abuse, I finally realized there was a name for someone like him. The affair girl was keeping a close eye on him. Ill marry soon and probably cheat in the same week. Personally , I think my husband cant and should not be married . I dont want to wake up to anymore pain that they think is fun and games. My heart just sank. i have questions on how to chatch me cheating husbans. But emoji still appear on frequently used. Everytime I bring it up he calls me a liar and a slut and he constantly brings up the fact that I cheated on him. I love him with all of my heart and I know he loves me and we have such an amazing family. You wont regret it!!!!! The other night my husband and I were leaving a party,he of coarse had too much too drink and I dont drink at all.He instantly started calling me names,telling me how fun Im not and how he cant stand me.I didnt say anything thinking he would settle down.But seems that made him more angry.Then he blurted out that he cheats on me all the time and stuck his fist through the window.Well then he tried to take the comment back by saying nobody would want him.I would not find it hard to believe if he were haveing a fling or some one nighters as I would think.He goes to the bar alot with his buddies and sometimes I dont see him until morning.I just need to know if he is and figure out how to catch him in the actI have checked his phone and cant find a thing.I am stummped on this one.But I also have been emotionally abused by him for the past 18 years it may be time for me to just give up. He apologized, said he doesnt want to date her or anyone other than me and that he will stop talking to her and make it clear that nothing will happen. I stay with him because hes good to me despite him refusing sex during our rough patch. I dont know what to believe anymore! We have been married for almost two years. Feel free to share your stories and suspicions below! Stay strong everyone. Why did he do this to me? It sounds like youre confused and conflicted about your relationship. Then I see them both girls who has been messaging with him on facebook. So I sat in my vehicle for about 10 more minutes and then I called him. However, before we dive into these steps, its important you read the next few sentences carefully. Hes cheated on me before, he was drunk (no excuse though) and then he lied to me about it for a while, finally told me, and I forgave him. I dont know what to do? Only that he wants someone to take care of him like a mother. Is your husband lying about cheating? Someone even told me the could be swingers. I was left empty. He said that wasnt him on the picture. I respect privacy even at my expense. He claims if he was cheating he wouldnt be here, and that an EX is an EX for a reason. Im devastated. To think it began with Facebook and he allowed our life together to be contaminated by someone who was using him, the way he uses others. I had doubts, is it really true, maybe this just started because of the distance that had been between us. I feel he lied about everything. I dont even doubt hes committed adultry with other women before too. however when I filed for divorce everything turned against me. It hurts oh so much, dont get me wrong, to admit and to face this, but I have to believe that when all the dust settles and the wounds are almost healed, I will beOK! Help? 7 different woman total BUT, multiple occasions with these woman over the course of the last 18 years. Why are you wasting your time with him? But i am confused and i doubt hes lying. Not only that, he risked your health too. He won't give you useless lies like, they were a friend, or that the other person needed them. If you're in a romantic relationship with a narcissist . I found all kinda of correspondence between them. Here are 5signs your husband is cheating, plus 4ways to know if hes lying to you about the affair. However, he has cheated on me five times now. what is the best way to find out the truth? Should I have this baby and be stuck with him for the rest of my life or end it with him and the baby. So I manage to unlock it and I found out that she was pregnant with his child and has abort it and he was paying for her to leave the country to a small island. I believe you know deep in your heart if you can trust your husband as much as you know if you can trust anyone. Ask Yourself if You Want to Stay Married. 6 Tips, When Your Life Feels Empty and Meaningless Without Love. He admits he had the chance to walk away back then but he didnt. 1. So maybe men who get cheated on hang put with each other as well. Sometimes people make horrible mistakes and then there is of course the whole mid-life crises thing. I do want to believe him and stay with him the only thing is, Im afraid of being cheated on again. You can often find solid families forming friendships with other solid families; this is one of the major reasons why America became such a wealthy, powerful nation, because a community is stronger if it has more people with good values. This is an opportunity to find who you are and what you like; in doing this you will find the one who really knows and appreciates you. Weve been together for 18 years. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. He opens the car door for me and asks me to wait in the car while he comes around to my side to open it. If he disrespects you, that is his bad and in him. If you dont leave this sh**tbag now he will worm his little way right back into you heart through his disgraceful lies he has already done this once before and you were kind enough to give him another chance 2 chances is more than enough! He cannot tell the truth because the truth will expose him as someone not regarded as honest or honorable. Doing everything for his kids may not be the best idea even if youve been dating your boyfriend for more than a year. I dont know if this is a connection or if I am just being paranoid. There are so many shades of grey and complications that make decisions very difficult. He said he never kissed all the way to sex with her. I have confronted him several times in the past and he always says that Im full of it and he would never cheat on me. My husband was talking to other women and lying to me. Why I still love him I dont know, but I am at a loss. This past December, there was a woman who came up to us at the bar and introduced herself to me. When to Take Your Familys Advice About Your Relationship. His idea for repairing the trustforget it ever happened, I am sorry (because I was caught, of course), suffered thru my guilty time, and we can now move forward. We had to be separated for a year because they emptied my propane tank that was filled up by an energy assistance program and I could not afford to put propane back in it. She wants to trust you, but your behavior is causing pain. I havent withdrawn the papers yet, but I dont want a divorce. I married someone that I didnt really know or understand. I wish I had known everything before we were married. It seems that he spend more of his time away from home than to stay home. And thank God for that because I dont ever want to know what it is like to not know the real meaning of love and not be able to be grateful for the gifts God gave me and to never be happy or satisfied with a person that loves me so much. he always said that and keeps saying it but it was just curiosity. I am wondering if he did mean what he said? I started focusing on my daughters. But I cant tell him that I have been sniffing on his things. When Danny comes over to get my girl my husband gets this anger that Ive never seen before sometimes he says I flirt with danny and even goes as far as accusing me of wanting danny and saying Id cheat with him. He alluded that he is cheating on me again, and I just feel sick. Telling her he woukd protect her always . Whatever your reason for asking us, my dear, here is my personal answer. I wanted to be the 80 year old couple that were madly in love, still holding hands in the nursing home in our wheel chairs. He uses the extra chores as his excuse for always being tired. If youre really confused and worried about it, I encourage you to talk to a counselor in person. Your husband cheating might not seem like the life-ending situation that requires a doctor, however, many us dont realize just how emotionally tarring the breakdown of a marriage can be. They had been texting, talking on Facebook and God only knows what at work. "She lost her mind and left me with three small children and took them with her to Larissa and won't let me see my children," he said. if one in every two men cheat, than a guy with two friends, has a 75% chance of having a cheating friend, its just numbers, and it means nothing. Research from the University of Guelph shows that people with sexual performance anxiety are more likely to cheat on their partners. I pray you find healing for the hurts that have been done to you, and I pray you find wisdom to leave people who dont treat you with love and respect. I am at the verge of leavingI feel as if he is giving me no other choice. Now I dont know what to believe. It doesnt hurt that its fun. It pains me to know that he is in search of women to have sex with. Enough saidwhen your surrounding slowly starts giving you a bad eye or bad looks then it means the person you are with is giving you a bad name. I have to agree with a lot of the points you make. Her kids were there. why because i am always praying against his going out at night. This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply. He has said over and over that he is taking our relationship seriously but I just learned that hes been texting another girl in what I consider an inappropriate manner for the past month or so (very flirtatious texts at all times of day, making plans to go to her house that he hasnt told me about, or alternatively him making excuses for why he cant go out that appear to be lies timed around when he was hanging out with me). Your husband is a loser, just like my manipulative ex was! when you ask your man are you cheating on me, you are actually saying in your place, I would have already cheated, I cant believe you havent yet. Sometimes when hes not at home I just sit and cry. Usually pornography is a catalyst for other problems in a marriage that can be waiting to surface. Truth be told, the last thing you probably want to do right now is getting your workout clothes our and head to the gym, but you might be surprised at how much it could help you work through your feels. Wearing jeans, nice shirt, nice shoes and doing more to his hair. And when I got pregnant last year, the email communication increased and my husband actually went off to him home town to meet this woman. Every time he has a phone, he is so protective with it, he always has it with him wherever he goes, sometimes sleeps with it. I had a gut feeling by my observations of his actions. I have so much respect for you, and for what youve survived! I just hate that I dont trust him, but Ive always felt he needs attention from other women, and I feel like Im just not enough. I hinted toward it a few times and then he finally realized what I was getting at. I confronted her by text. Ive always had trust issues woth anyone and everyone there are very few ppl i trust when i say few i mean like only two ppl come to mind. Luckily the woman didnt respond to my husbands messages. My depressive thinking is letting me down when I feel cornered. I isolated myself by distancing myself from my family and friends. well she done had the 3rd kid and he is now 3 months old and he is still bouncing back and forth between me and her so i told him he is either going to choose me or her again not even a month went by i went through my phone records cuz i paid for him to have a phone and i found a number i didnt recognize and i called it come to find out he had been talking to another girl and been hanging out wit her so i went and met her and she showed me all the txt messages she was straight up honest wit me so evidently 2 of us wasnt enough he needed 3 women in his life and i come to find out that im pregnant with his child and through all of this his baby mama wit the 3 she found out i was going to have his child so she took her 3 kids and left finally she was gona it was jus me and him things were finally going good i was starting to trust him then he goes to jail for 2 days and i go and get him out and he swore up and down to me that things were going to be different so 2 weeks before my due date to have our child i go back to my house for a couple days and go to my doctor appt alone again and i find out that he had been talking to his other baby mama and she was now back down at his house living there again so i leave for 2 days and he brings her back so i told him that he would regret that for the rest of his life and he is because he didnt get to see his son born. 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